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Summer, Children And ‘War of the Exes’
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The length of the visit usually depends on more than a father’s personal commitment. It often hinges on how far the child has to travel, how much vacation the father has, and whether or not a new wife, friends or grandparents can help look after the youngsters, Mr. Melamed said. Logistics can be an issue. Michael Krouch, a 42-year-old social worker in Westchester County, has a rough road to keep a commitment to his children, one that winds through three states week after week. One Saturday morning saw Mr. Krouch, who is now single, behind the wheel of his Ford Escort by 8 o’clock. He was headed for the Connecticut home of one of his two former wives to pick up their 6-year-old daughter. It was the first stop in a complicated weekend routine for Mr. Krouch, who takes graduate courses at Columbia University and tends bar some nights to help make support payments. With his daughter scrunched happily in the front seat beside him, he pointed the Escort westward; 75 minutes later they arrived at a park in Teaneck, N.J., where Mr. Krouch’s son from his first marriage, Canaan, 13, was playing in a Little League baseball game. ‘’Two children from two broken marriages who live in two different states doesn’t leave much free time for myself,'’ Mr. Krouch said with soft-spoken acceptance, his former wife Debby seated next to him at the game. ‘’You’re always on the go.'’ Debby Krouch, a United Airlines supervisor, considered transferring to Denver last summer. But, she said, ‘’Canaan needs both his parents, and Mike is a good father.'’ When children live with their mother in a different city from their father and see him only infrequently, the summer reunion can cause extraordinary stress on all sides, family experts said. For men deprecated by their former wives in front of their children, the visit can turn into a crusade for vindication. ‘’I had a client who was a businessman who lost his job and had to drive a cab for a while,'’ said Ellen Weber, a New York psychotherapist. ‘’His esteem hit bottom. If he couldn’t see his son, that meant his wife had triumphed over him once again, so his attitude with his son was, ‘You’re going to come see me even if it kills you!’ ‘’ More : query.nytimes.com |
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